I am arriving at the realization that time is a key component in online dating, and is a double-edged sword.  On the one hand, it takes time to get to know someone, and in John Van Epp’s book, “How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk”, McGraw Hill, 2007, he advises it take three (3) month to get to know someone sufficiently in order to have some indication if they are a good match for you. However, with regard to online dating, it is challenging to get past even the first date, and make a determination if a second date makes sense. Also, as we get older, three (3) months is a good chuck of time, and if after those three (3) months, it does not work out, it takes precious time from dating someone else who might be a better match.